Jinx myself

Posted by tattooedblonde (524 days ago)

So, how does it happen that every time i meet someone new it seems to only ever work out in one of 2 ways:

1. I'm really interested in them and turns out that theyre not, so it never evolves

or

2. I'm not interested in them and find myself stalked by someone i feel i have nothing in common with and no desire to continue spending time with.

Does this happen to anyone else here?

I just met a really nice guy and I'm too scared to get excited about it because my gut feeling tells me that he's probably not interested and it will fizzle out into nothing, even though it seems very promising now.

(I am based in Guangzhou)

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Posted by kopfan888 (524 days ago)

oooh tough one, don't have these really high expectations but also on the other hand don't come across as too wary and disinterested, in case it happens to be a good thing and then he thinks you're really into him. Finding the happy medium between the two is key, easier said than done I know.

where do you actually meet these guys?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by tattooedblonde (523 days ago)

i dont have high expectations, it just seems i can never find that happy medium.
I meet these guys obviously in the wrong places. *duh*

(I am based in Guangzhou)

Posted by Justin Credible (Part Deux) (522 days ago)

In order to find that happy medium...maybe it would be nice to give a chance to someone who, on the surface of it, you wouldnt normally be interested in but who is madly interested in you.

It works both ways...nothing is ever perfect. I think, with my partner, I wasnt looking for anyone at the time and to be honest, when we met I was more of a "I can see us getting along and being friends" thing...but I was pursued to the end of the earth and won over within the first week! I now realize that I am really glad I didnt pass up the opportunity when I was given it and I really have ended up with probably the best partner I could ever want.

Remember, somewhere out there are a list of the ones you are saying "I'm not interested" who are complaining about exactly the same stuff as you.

Its NOT better to burn out than to fade away. If you think you have so much fire day 01, it can burn out. If you let love grow on you like a moss, it sticks around and grows some more. ;o)

(I am based in Hong Kong)